Keeping your spouse at the top of your list, above your parents, is vital to the success of your marriage. That doesn’t mean you don’t love, care and honor your parents. It just means that the top priority has now changed from parents to spouse.
In the Bible the apostle Paul was teaching the people about marriage and the duties of husbands and wives when he said,” For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. Nevertheless let everyone of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband(Ephesians 5:31-33)”.
In order for marriage to flourish both husband and wife need to leave their parents and start a new home together. From that moment they need to be number one in each other’s life. That doesn’t mean they don’t love or care about their parents.
When your husband and wife knows he or she comes before your parents, it creates a deeper marital bond. When you talk together as a couple about your problems and seek answers in a united way, it strengthens your marriage. If one or the other keeps running home to Mom or Dad, complaining about his or her spouse, it can be damaging to your marriage. There is a bond of devotion where deep sharing of thoughts and experiences kindle a love that can be experienced no other way. This kind of intimacy opens the door to a more romantic relationship.
When you have kept each other as a priority, you’ll be there for each other through the hard times. Your spouse is your greatest support system. Parental love and support is nice to have, but in the end it is your spouse who is by your side daily.
A loving relationship with parents can be very helpful in keeping your family strong. If you have been respectful and loving to your parents, all the while keeping your mate as your priority, your memories will be sweeter and your marriage will be stronger.